Would you believe it ! its two years already. Oh boy! When first anniversary was approaching, I had to patiently wait for it. But the second year passed so fast! One day I suddenly realized, its July and second anniversary will follow soon!
I’m delighted to invite all the readers, well wishers and friends who supported me, to celebrate with me on today’s post, which is 80th post on the blog. And of course my family, continuously supporting me, without whom, I’m really helpless.
I was struggling to find a topic for the event! I thought of and rejected many themes! Finally it was as if, the theme was there in front of me all the time. Yes!!!
When I say, I love my family and my family members are my strengths and weaknesses, I mean it! For a healthy and happy family, all the members should be in harmony and should understand each other. No grudges or rebellions! Of course minor differences would be there, but usually they don’t matter much.
In today’s era of nuclear families, the children don’t usually live with their grandparents. In my childhood, we were fortunate enough to be with my paternal grandparents. My grandmother used to love all her grandchildren and used to care for them a lot! She used to cook our favourite dishes. My mother with my grandma were the ones who introduced us to the rich heritage of India. They made us aware of the various traditions and cultures. And now, my daughter is attached to her grandparents too, Dadi & Nani, both. And the adorable little cutie always shelters behind her granny if someone scolds her for a mistake. And my observation is that, the children obey and respect most of the things, they get to know from grandparents.
A firmly supporting family definitely boosts a person to overcome any obstacle in his/ her path to success. You can always be open with your family about all your worries and the mere discussion will help alleviate the distress. Joint families are now a days very rare to find. There are pros and cons with everything, joint family is not an exception of course! But the support of all the members certainly helps an individual, though you may face problems getting privacy. But the children do get opportunities to mix up with other siblings, they play, they interact, they learn things from each other. There is a positive impact on their outlook and they learn to adjust with other members, in severe contrast to single child, who gets constant attention, doesn’t share things with others. Me, my elder sister used to play with the children in the neighborhood. Our pretend fights used to resolve spontaneously, though I was a little introverted and occasionally used to return home crying about something.
So I started thinking in this direction and an idea sparkled! Why not enjoy songs that mention the family relations! I mean, the songs that actually clearly mention any family relation. Let it be, Mother, father, husband, siblings or any other. But I restrict it to the family members this time!
Our Hindi films, mostly I remember the films from South Indian production houses, used to portray joint families. The hero would be with the good people. His mother would be a goddess of sacrifice and goodness. She will never think evil about anyone in the family, even though her Jethani will torment her like anything. The ‘Bad Party’ would be an uncle (at times stepmother or step brother) or an aunt, who would be jealous of the good party and make their life miserable. Or a mother in law with devilish or witchish character, to make the daughter in law’s life miserable. The hero would be her Devar and always take her side. In the end, everything will be well and they live happily ever after.
Some films celebrate the festival of life on the screen. We get to celebrate with them. Of course, I’m pointing to ‘Hum Aapke Hain Kaun?’. But more about the film, in my 1994 songs review.
A number of songs from the movie, mention the family relationships. The entire film is a family album celebrating the marriage of the elder son of the family and the events thereafter.
It’s apt to remember the song from Chandni, ‘Main Sasural Nahin Jaoongi’. The song mentions all the in law relationships in the verses.
But as my criteria was to select the songs with the relationship mentioned in Mukhada, I am skipping it. But I thought it important to mention here.
I also remember a track from Hum, that features the entire family of Amitabh’s.
The song was an attraction for the audience and still maintains popularity. The family that stood united in every situation and defended obstacles. The song obviously featured on my 1991 favourites.
Some films have the protagonist, who’s an orphan and has his life ruined because of that. There was no one to guide him about the good and the bad, he had to work hard for livelihood, and now he’s grown up and extremely bitter about society. He gets acquainted with a good, supporting, understanding family and they bring about a change in his mentality and his hostility towards the society turns into goodness. Or a criminal transforming into a good civilian after meeting loving and caring lady. This also has appeared on the silver screen several times.
When I started collecting songs, it was not that difficult at all. Some songs were obvious enough to include, I mean the songs are so well known, that we can think of them at once. Majority of the songs actually address the person, the lines in the song actually converse with that person from the singing character’s point of view. Or the song talks about that person in general. At first I thought of restricting myself to pre 70s songs, but later I decided to go beyond the timeline and include songs post 70s as well! After all, it’s a second anniversary celebration, and I recently started my 1990s posts. So the timeline has been extended anyway.
So without further ado, let’s celebrate my blog’s second anniversary with the songs that actually mention any blood relation in the opening lines. I’ve tried selecting the happy songs for the list, though readers may add song of any mood. And as I had decided to mention the family relationship in English as well, I came to know how rich our Indian languages are! We have a separate word for each relation. In English, all relations end up with uncle, aunt, niece, nephew, cousin etc etc. (Or at least, I’m not aware of the separate terms if any!)
Bhaiya Mere Rakhi Ke Bandhan Ko – Chhoti Behen (1959) Lata Mangeshkar / Shankar Jaikishan – Shailendra
No need to say anything about the iconic song! It’s one of the most popular Raksha Bandhan songs of Hindi cinema. It was a Prasad Productions film and was full of a typical family melodrama. How the brothers and sister’s relation turns sore and how the family suffers as the things turn bad to worst. Nanda in the title role was much acclaimed and all the songs were immensely popular. The mentioned song is the most popular and was my obvious first choice for the list. Sister singing and tying a Rakhi is a common scene in Hindi films.
Phoolon Ka Taaron Ka – Hare Rama Hare Krishna (1972) Lata Mangeshkar / R D Burman – Majrooh
Making an exception to my rule, I’m including an emotional song. And it’s not a sad song at all, and one of my great favourites. I always get overwhelmed with emotions, when I listen to it. Lata has literally poured all her emotions into it. And I haven’t yet watched the song completely, I always get emotional in between and stop watching it. I feel sorry for the poor little kid in the movie. I remember watching the film in school days on DD, and that time too, I was worried about the kid. She suffers a lot in vain! Only if the parents would have cared for her!
3. Father and Son
O Daddy Ji, Bolo Mere Beta Ji – Aakhri Goli (1977) Kishore Kumar & Mahendra Kapoor / Kalyanji Anandji – Verma Malik
Sunil Dutt and Om Prakash sing the song at a party, thrown to celebrate the success of the former in a shooting championship.
A fun song, celebrating the era belonging to the youth. And the old generation claiming their being young at heart. An adorable wrangling between the generations. I don’t know, if the song’s popular or not, but fits perfectly to today’s theme.
Kishore Kumar’s lively and young voice rocks. But Sunil Dutt looks quite old to represent the young generation.
Mummy O Mummy Tu Kab Saas Banegi – Khatta Meetha (1981) Kishore Kumar / Rajesh Roshan – Gulzar
Though I could have selected an emotional song, I chose this one for a celebration post. A cute son desperately waiting for his marriage and teasing his mother about it. Just amazing how Kishore Kumar expresses the naughtiness and the desperation at the same time in a delightfully fresh voice.
5. Father and Husband
Main To Bhool Chali Babul Ka Des – Saraswatichandra (1968 ) Lata Mangeshkar & Chorus / Kalyanji Anandji – Indeevar
A beautiful Garba song, mentioning the father. The newly wed bride is enjoying the Sasural so much that she hardly remembers her Maayka. Though she didn’t at all like her husband, she is pretending happiness. The typical rhythm of the song makes it an ideal for Garba dance and the song is a must on a Navaratri celebrations. The first verse also mentions about the in laws, which is a bonus, as far as this post is concerned.
The song, however, doesn’t talk much about the father-daughter relationship. But as I was not going to include melancholy songs, I skipped many songs mentioning father.
6. Paternal Grandma
Dadi Amma Dadi Amma Maan Jao – Gharana (1961) Asha Bhosle & Kamal Barot / Ravi – Shakeel Badayuni
The granny is angry with something and her cute little grandchildren are trying to coax her. Can there be any cuter situation than this?
The granny can’t hold her pretend anger for long, who falls prey to the cute little’s innocence. Lalita Pawar was not beautiful, but I must say, in the song she looks cute as a loving grandma. Her facial expressions are so wonderful!
7. Maternal Grandparents
Nana Se Kehti Thi Nani Hamari – Renuka (1947) Baby Shaila with unknown male singer / Sardar Malik – Qamar Jalalabadi
I came across the song accidentally, while researching for the post. The grandchildren are talking about their grandparents and how young at heart they were! They feel their love story superior to that of Laila Majanu. The cute song was a discovery from me, I think it’s not a well known song.
8. Sister in law (Brother’s wife)
Meri Aayi Hai Teen Bhabhiyan – Hum Sab Ek Hai (1946) Amirbai Karnataki & Zohrabai Ambalewali / Husnalal Bhagatram – P L Santoshi
What an interesting song it is! I wasn’t aware of it, until I found it during the research. The film was about a mother who raises orphans as her own children along with her biological son. The other two brothers follow their own religion and the film was to spread national integration among the religions. The song talks about the sisters in law of a young woman, who’s thrilled at the idea of having three bhabhis each of a different religion. She adores all three of them and they also equally enjoy her company. Many nanadiyas of Hindi films torture their Bhabhis, but for a refreshing change, a 1946 film depicts a friendly relationship between the two. And it’s a typical vintage era song and a typical Husnalal Bhagatram composition too!
9. Brother in law (Husband’s brother)
Bhabhi Kare Appeal Aur Phir Devar Bane Vakil – Ghar Sansar (1958) Asha Bhosle / Ravi – Majrooh
A proud Bhabhi adores her Devar, who has passed the L L B exam and become a lawyer. She daydreams about his cases in the court and how he will win the case by referring his books and save an innocent. Even the Judge will get impressed by his fluent English. Bhabhi and Devar share a very different relationship. They are more of friends than the actual relationship. Hindi film Devars and Bhabhis always portray a deep bond of love and care. So I thought of the song as apt for the post.
10. Maternal Uncle
Mama O Mama O Mama – Parvarish (1958) Rafi & Manna Dey / Dattaram – Harsat Jaipuri
Not that I’m particularly fond of the song, but I guess it’s quite popular and fits the theme. It’s also among one of the most popular male singer duets too! Uncle and nephews interacting with each other. The verses of the song are sung in a style similar to qawwali.
11. Uncle and Nephew
Suno Bhai Chacha Kahe Bhatija – Murder On Highway (1970) Manna Dey & Mahendra Kapoor / C Arjun – Asad Bhopali
Rather a philosophical song, composed in a playful way. Wasn’t aware of the song, of course! Must have been an obscure film. But nevertheless, the song isn’t at all obscure. It has a character of its own!
It’s like ‘काम की बात बता दी, कॉमेडी गाना गाके’. Though the characters do not sound like each others’ Chacha and Bhatija, the song does mention the relationship, I think in a generalized way!
12. Paternal Uncle and Aunt
Chachi Akad Gayi Ji – Panchayat (1958) Usha Mangeshkar / Iqbal Qureshi – Shakeel Numani
I found this song last year, when I was compiling solos of Usha Mangeshkar.
A cute song portraying a playful quarrel between the uncle and aunt of a little kid. It describes in detail the pretend wrangling between the two. How Chachi puffs her cheeks, how Chachu tries to persuade her, how he fails and the cat-fight continues even at the end of the song. It’s fun to watch Raj Kumar in a playful mood.
13. Brother in law (Sister’s Husband)
Jijaji Jijaji Hone Wale Jijaji – Sajan Bina Suhagan (1978) Suresh Wadkar, Anuradha Paudwal & Dilraj Kaur / Usha Khanna – Sawan Kumar
A cute and playful argument between the saaliyan and would be Jiju. The sisters of the bride put forth some of their conditions, which ‘would be groom’ has to agree before marrying their sister. It’s interesting to hear how their quick witted ‘would be Jiju’ answers them.
Little Padmini Kolhapure had a spark clearly visible in the song. Vinod Mehra looks as handsome as ever!
14. Samdhi and Samdhan
Aaj Hamare Dil Mein – Hum Aapke Hai Kaun (1994) Lata Mangeshkar, Kumar Sanu & Chorus / Ram Laxman – Ravindra Rawal
I don’t know if there is a word for Samdhi or Samdhan in English. I guess, there won’t be! I do think, it would perhaps be the only song mentioning these relations. The two Samadhis are college friends and the Samdhan is also their batch-mate. And Reema Lagu looks gorgeous as a mother definitely. The song is otherwise playful, but takes an emotional turn in the third verse, where the mother thinks of her daughter’s Bidai and asks her samadhi to take care of her daughter.
And, anymore to mention? Oh! Of course. I have left the most important for the last position! Guessed? Yes! Wife of course!
Ghar Ki Raunak Hai Gharwali – Bandi (1957) Kishore Kumar & Geeta Dutt / Hemant Kumar – Rajendra Krishan
The cute and meaningful song from Bandi highlights the value of an understanding and caring wife, in a man’s life. For smooth running of the house, both the wheels should run in harmony. The song also mentions about the ‘in laws’ as a gift that a man gets automatically. Though the song portrays the facts in a playful and comic way, it’s actual importance can’t be overlooked.
Would you add a song?
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